We have a desire on The Surrender Birth Team to help couples birth for God’s glory, not just woman. This is why we have two dads and husbands on the team as well! We will have a variety of posts directed towards the men written by the men. So invite your man to join us! Justin is a dad of 6 children, and the husband to Chelsea.
Surrender is a Lifestyle
So your wife just handed you the laptop, or maybe her phone. Maybe she just tagged you in this post. I feel you – but stay with me.
If you are reading this, your wife wants to “Surrender” to God on her journey through her pregnancy and as she starts or continues on her journey of motherhood. Check. We get that – right fellas?
But what are we supposed to do? We are problem solvers. Give us a problem to solve. Can I get a witness?
Before we get further into that, let’s take a look at this word “surrender” \sə-ˈren-dər\.
Here are two different definitions and the implications of each.
- transitive verb: To yield to any influence, emotion, passion, or power
A transitive verb is defined by having a finite subject following it. The “action” is transferred to something. “He carried the bag”, “They designated a hitter”.
- intransitive verb: To give up one’s self to the power of another; to yield
An intransitive verb does not transfer, but rather stays with the subject (us) yet involves the power of another (God) – not a finite being, but an infinite power.
This is clearly the definition we are talking about, but it is counterintuitive to us. Aren’t we supposed to “stay strong” for her? We provide. We protect. Do we yield?
So back to what we are supposed to do. Surrender sounds more like “not doing” something (not worrying, not being fearful, etc.). But now we are talking about a verb?
Surrendering in this context is not throwing up our hands, giving up the fight, yielding to the power of a finite being. It is not an event, it is a lifestyle. It is not a monumental moment in time. We are not Robert E. Lee staring down General Ulysses S. Grant at the end of a bloody civil war. Most importantly, surrendering is not passive. Surrendering is active.
As C.S. Lewis writes in his book, Mere Christianity, there comes a point where you must turn to God and say, “You must do this. I can’t.” Then you don’t get out of the way, as some people like to say, but rather you get God IN the way. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you (James 4:10). He must increase, but I must decrease (John 3:30). So what must we do? We must decrease.
We started this by acknowledging that our wives want to “Surrender” to God on their journey through their pregnancy and as they start or continue on their journey of motherhood. I am inviting you now to join us and actively Surrender to God on your journey through your wife’s pregnancy as you start or continue your journey through fatherhood. This is how we can serve our wives most completely. Not by our own strength, but by God’s strength through us. His yoke is easy. His burden is light. His promises are real. Learn them. Know them. Pray them for yourself, for your wife, for your child.