Patience as one of our Promises to Surrender isn’t specifically about patience as a verb. We aren’t talking about being patient with our children or a nagging family member or friend. There are certainly times when that type of patience is needed. In fact, if you’re a mama, that type of patience is a daily thing.
But, in the context of pregnancy, labor and birth, we are talking about a slightly different type of patience..patience as a virtue.
We’re talking about the kind of patience we need when we feel stretched so thin, weary, tired, or even overcome with excitement and anticipation that we begin to question. Question what we’re doing, how we got here, and if God is even with us anymore.
The kind of patience needed after 36 long weeks of awaiting the growing human in your womb and you wonder if the next 4 will even end.
The patience needed when our feet hurt and our backs ache but we have a toddler who needs us to keep going each morning as the sun rises.
The patience we need when we’ve been waiting months or years to see those two pink little lines and we wonder if God hears our pleas.
The patience we need when our birth plan changes mid labor and the midwife or doctor isn’t being as kind or compassionate as we wished they would or need.
Patience is to endure discomfort (all kinds of emotional or physical discomfort) without complaint or questioning God.
This discomfort, this emotional weariness, this bodily weariness, this spiritual weariness, is what makes patience such a virtue.
It is made up of many other virtues, specifically, self-control, humility, and mercy. Patience is a complex of other virtues.
Self Control: The Bible warns us that if we do not have self control, we will be slaves to what controls us. If you are struggling with self control it’s time to get in the Word of God and allow Scripture to change your heart and mind. A struggle with self control is a struggle with patience.
Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city. Proverbs 16:32
Humility: The Bible tells us how important it is to know our place when we serve the living God. Humility is juxtaposed to pride. Pride wraps itself around our ankles and pulls, even slowly, and eventually we find have drifted so far from the Lord. Humility is what shifts our birth and parenting to Glorify the Lord not ourselves. Humility takes true Heart.
“He humbled you and let you be hungry, and fed you with manna which you did not know, nor did your fathers know, that He might make you understand that man does not live by bread alone, but man lives by everything that proceeds out of the mouth of the LORD.” Deut 8:3
Mercy: When tangled with Patience as a virtue, mercy is a tenderheartedness. When something causes great discomfort, spiritually, physically, emotionally and we need patience, we need an aspect of tenderheartedness within us. A softness that comes from within a changed heart which seeks to mimic the Lord.
“The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.” Psalm 103:8
Mamas, we have such an incredible calling on our lives. Not only are we called to nurture and create life in our wombs but then to raise and nurture those lives as arrows for the Lord.
We will face many, many, many, many, many days where patience will be tested or required of us. And, for many of us, in ways we never imagined.
Hold fast mama, hold to Jesus, cling to the cross. Put on self control, humility, and mercy.
This weeks Prayer:
Lord, help these mamas to be longsuffering. When the days are long and the hours feel like they will never end…hold them steady. When they feel pressed, tested, stretched thin, worn down and weary…Lord, remind them of the strength you give. Give them self control, humility, and mercy so they can put on Patience. Father, we love you and we want to live as a reflection of who you are. Thank you Lord, for your patience with us. Amen.